I spent some time thinking the other day and came up with five values or themes that are very important in my life:
The first two are closely linked; it would be far easier to start a family in a place where I'm part of the community. I honestly don't feel a connection to my current community; everyone keeps to themselves and everything is very impersonal. The first big step to finding/creating my community is being in the right physical location. At the same time, I'm trying to find a couple online communities to be part of. These are mostly other blogs that I comment on a lot.
If I still cannot find someone to marry, I will adopt. I don't want to even think about that until I have my own house. Am adopted child needs permanence in their life. And not just a parent, but a home.
I also want to create. I'm still looking for what I want to create and what I want to create it with. That's one of the reasons I'm taking piano, art, and other courses, as well as getting back into programming and learning about electronics.
Then I want to explore. Not just the external world, but the world of knowledge and imagination. This is closely linked to creativity, as I want to learn about art, music, literature, science, mathematics, languages, and much more.
Finally, I want to flow with what I do, both mentally and physically. By this, I mean that I want to have a bit of grace to my movements (those of you who know me personally, feel free to laugh) and be fast and graceful with my mind. To me, this means that I need to have balance, flexibility, speed, and stamina in what I do. Physically, I want to get back into dance classes and look into finding an aikido dojo wherever I move to.
Take note that none of these has higher precedence over any other. I'm striving to keep them all in balance in what I do. And as I start to push this more and more into my life, I'm applying the idea of kaizen, or of small, continuous steps. Trying to change everything about you at once is just a mistake waiting to happen.