"Family" is typically the first of my five values that I list. The reason is that I feel it's the most important. The rest aren't in any real order. I've also talked about how I want to start my own family and be a father. And I've even talked a bit about what I tend to look for in a woman.
Very recently, the best test I could ask myself about how I truly feel about a woman popped in my head: would she make a good mother to our children? As I've said, I want to be a father even more than I want to be a husband, and this is a very important question for me. Can I trust her with our childrens' lives? With all the various reports of parents killing their own kids, this question isn't all that crazy. Can I trust her to teach our kids how to do well in life? Can I trust her to raise them well if anything happens to me?
I still feel that being a parent is the most important role one can play. And that leading by example is the best method.
Should I reverse the question? Would she think I would make a good father to our children? Would she trust me with our childrens' lives? Can she trust me to teach our kids how to do well in life? Can she trust me to raise them well if anything happens to her?
I know you never know what someone would do until they're in that situation. But I still think these are very important questions.
Other questions I would ask, ones that aren't directly related to children, include the previously mentioned philosophical compatibility, common interests, and open mindedness.